Things to Ponder

If u ever had a superior or a boss or someone related to u with the attitude of 'riak' / 'tinggi diri' / 'mcm bagus' / 'cakap besar' / what-ever it is, & of course u dont really like this person, what do u feel now if this person get involved with a terrible experience?
To me, it;s a mixture of feelings...ya, i feel sorry of what had happened. Ya, i feel unhappy with her previous attitude to me. Sometimes, hatred is the best word to describe it. Ya, i feel pity of her...& at the end of the day, PITY is the best word to describe / label the WHOLE THINGS...
Lemme tell u the real story is. I guess & hope that this story can be a guide to others specially my good frens out there. Dont think that i'm a heartless person for writing this story in 'ere. Take it as a lesson. Picture as you are experiencing it. & vision it as a whole. Then, you may judge it.
This person was used to be my ex-direct superior. She used to work with Tractors Malaysia as an executive (i think so), then stop working there to follow her husband staying in Ipoh. She became a full time house-wife. She lived as a normal (low to medium lifestyle) people like u & me...Didnt have luxurious things in live...I remembered that she told me she only use 'bedak sejuk' (pink color round container with chinese lady picture printed on it) that she used to buy at 'pasar malam'. She only get to know Maybelline / Revlon etc etc when she started working with AISB (& of course i'm the 1 who introduced it since she asked for what brand that i used on that time... :-P ).
Easy to say that she was a low profile person (1st impression). But, after a while, i;ve seen a lot of things which is a 'REAL HER'...
She is not honest on certain things. Her kindness only shown when she felt guilty or need something or wanted to 'soften' other peoples' hearts.
At times, she'll tell all her achievements (mostly in getting something - new house, new car, branded laptop, branded this & that....). In fact, every month, there'll be something. At first, i felt greatful for her. That she came out from moderate lifestyle (to me) to a very good lifestyle. I know that she was paid very well compared to other less experienced Account executives. & her husband is working in another Toyota's branch - ASSB. He's an engineer. He set-up production line for new car models. Of course, he is very much well paid coz of his specialty & expertise! I was also greatful to hear from her that her husband is doing very well. In fact, her husband always deal with AISB & always come to see our production line. That's why i knew she;s telling the truth.
Earlier, i wrote the 'REAL HER'...yeah...it's for real. Last time, when we're doing QCC, the need of having a laptop was there. During pre-final & final preparation of the presentation, it was much useful to have a laptop. She was telling everyone about the greatness & goodness of having an Apple Brand laptop, yet, she reluctant to borrow it to the team. OK...we were fine with it. Because, it;s her property & she had the right to refuse for such. Then, a year after that, i signed up for SIRIM program. Because i didnt hv a desktop, i bought a laptop instead & its very convenient for me to have it specially during my classes. QCC was a yearly activity. So, the same thing brought up again. Instead of her offering her own dashfull laptop, she urged me to use my own laptop. Before that, she urged me to become the secretary of the team. Meant that, only secretary did the work, the rest just talk & goyang kaki...fine. I was being patience & hopefully she'll open her eyes sooner or later. Then, there were sooo many things happenned which led that i was the 1 to be blamed. I was very upset...really upset...
When she was pregnant for her 3rd child, she used to nag & asked me to do things. I didnt mind as long as she asked politely - asked ethically as a superior-staff way. But, at that time, she asked me like i was her maid... :-(
Remembered once, she was too excited to follow me to Cadbury Sales...Using my car. When we arrived there, we saw her husband also buying some chocolates....at the beginning, we thot that.. "oh, ok....maybe it was just a coincidence...her hubby get to know of this SALE & also thinking of buying some chocs for the family..."
Ya, me & the rest was bz with chocs & it seems that she didnt even pick any choc for herself...she was bz talking & standing beside her husband. When it was time to pay the stuff, we saw her husband already in Q & waiting for 2 more people. So, we neared her hubby (of course she's standing beside her hubby!), to ask whether we can 'tumpang' to pay the stuff & we can go off early...Before we went to the factory, she was nagging whether we could arrive AISB on time as lunch hour ends.
Ok...back to 'when we neared her husband'... & we said 'tumpang...tumpang', she straight away said 'NO'...."Tak boleh...tak boleh...nanti susah nak kira...", then, whispering something to her husband... I was like "huh?"...At the beginning, she's the 1 who wanted to follow us & asked us to be back to office on time. & at that time....huh! If she said politely, ok...fine...but, with the facial expression of...i dunno how to describe it...at that point of time...i'd got the senses / feelings that she is not a sincere lady...
Days after days,weeks after weeks, years after years...she became more proud & proud of herself. Lots of arguments between me & her, though it made sense, she won't accept it. No use of giving point of views. No use of giving more to the work...putting more effort to the job...she just think of herself - her less effort given for her job, her increment, her bonus, her job grading, etc...etc..etc...& not just that, her so-called loving & never-ending story between her & her husband...
All that time, she was telling me that the stuff that she had was from her ideas & choices...& i wonder...when this terrible thing happenned to her... i am a bit puzzled & ???
Hey, guys! This might be the longest posting. But worth reading... :-P
On 31/5/09 - i've got a shocking news...apparently this gurls knew about it for quite some time(they kept it as a secret + yeah, i was a bit upset + i thot i'm 1 of the gang, so, i supposed to know too... :-()...let me call my x-direct superior as 'M'. M already divorced!...herk!...since August last year...??? yeah..i was speechless...felt pity & a lot of questions in my mind...why? how did it happenned? when was it started? how? & on...& on...& on...
Apparently, M was left by her husband for some1 else. & that some1 else was her maid from Kalimantan. The 1 that my brother in-law supplied just a month before the Pesta Sukan UMW last year...uhuks! & Herkss...! Of course my brother in-law doesnt know anything about this. What do u expext? & M herself chose this young & fair lady to be her maid. M's husband had an affair with the maid, & suddenly the secret gets 'up to her nose' eventually, they had few quarrels...& suddenly M's husband ran away. Later on, he also took the maid out from the house & they went dunno where & the last thing i knew that they've get married + no longer staying at their so-called grand house in Subang Impian + new wife got pregnant...that;s it....that's what thses gurls told me...ya, I felt pity of her....she was trying to hide her sorrow live but, eventually big mouth x-husband was telling lies to officemates...Thru these gurls, M was trying to get help from Ustadz, etc to get her X back. The advices / feedbacks was..."u better leave that guy. Live goes on. U are still young & forget everything about this guy. He's not worth to die to get for..." some sort like that la...
From what Nurul told me, she was really in heart-breaking situation...like a hopeless soul. & it seems that apart from what happens in her live, she is a strong woman. Why do i say so?...she still can continue her job...she still can manage her 3 kids (her X dont even help her in terms of material, monetary or what-so-ever)...she still can continue with her live actually. Only that memories remain.
My opinion :
- M also contributed some role as part of her X's separation + had an affair. Why? because of her arrogant attitude (which i knew that her X dont really like it). The pride of having all the things that she have of course lead to maybe her maid of wanting the same luxurious lifestyle
- M is actually a 'material' woman. Yes, she likes expensive stuff. She likes Bonia. She likes whatever things that she bought must be the latest / the coolest / the most good gadget in the market...
- from what she told me, yes, she prefers luxurious lifestyle. She even complaint about her sister lifestyle...& even complaint about me.... :-( (of course...i just ignore what-ever she said...i was just a "kuli"...how can i afford all those things???)
- i dunno what else to say...lot of things that i just listened, & even try to get heart feelings & also forget about it...just thinking she was just a spoilt brat..ya, like a spoilt teenage brat...
Maybe certain things that i say here might be inappropriate but, those geist are things to ponder...
Maybe what goes around, comes around...maybe God wanted to teach her a lesson. Being proud is not a good thing. Makes her remember where she used to be & where she comes from. Sometimes, people forgets. She is 1 of them.
I do felt sorry for her. For what had happenned. & i hope i wont be in that situation.
Pen Off!
Note : i was a bit dissappointed when those kids dont even tell me before the DOa Selamat. All of them knows this story except me. & i had a vague explanation/reason on it. What's the real reason behind it?As frens, they should've tell me much much much earlier. Now, i am thinking...maybe i am not part of AISB-ians anymore? Or maybe i am way too old for those kids? Now, i'm questioning myself....